I hesitated between naming this blog Self-Help Books That’ll Actually Change Your Life and Self-Help Books That Aren’t Cheesy, because more often than not we stumble upon a self-help book that 1) doesn’t change your life, and 2) is super cheesy. Even me, someone who pretty much only reads Self-Help, Personal Development, Philosophy, Sociology, New Age type books has started to get sick of the ones that are just too fluffy. That being said, I’ve narrowed down the search with my all-time favorite self-help books that you should purchase off Amazon or simply pick up at your local library. Let’s do this.
Delaying the Real World
Real-life examples of how people are taking their random passions like working on a cruise ship, or performing in the circus, or teaching English abroad and making a life out of it. The best part is that this book makes you realize there are truly thousands of people already out there living their passions, and that not everyone is a naysayer trying to keep you from fulfilling your wildest dreams. Basically, this is the book that makes you realize you don’t have to be a travel YouTuber or travel blogger to live this lifestyle of traveling and living around the world.
The Art of Non-Conformity
My favorite book of all time. After reading this book, you’ll start noticing how much more aware and conscious you are of your actions and life path, and conversely so, how blind and sadly, brainwashed a lot of society is. This one really, really makes you question everything you grew up thinking and was really the book that made me straight up be like, “f*ck this, I want to do something in travel and media, so why am I not doing that?” And then, I did.
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
A nice reminder that most of the stuff you spend your day worrying about, really, really does not matter in the long run. After reading this book (which is simply one tip and one story per page), you leave every stressful situation asking yourself, “Will this matter a year from now?” and suddenly, you’ll be looking at your life from an entirely different perspective. You won’t get upset at stupid little things like “Oh, but it’s raining and my hair got wet!” or “But that man just pulled right out in front of me! I’m going to get back at him!” Everyone needs this book.
The anti Self-help book. I’ll admit: I took this book off Jo’s dresser just for something to read on the bus, and ended up spending the entire night at Starbucks reading this book. Even after reading the first two sentences, you get a feel for how the rest of the book will be. She starts off, “You can start out with nothing, and out of nothing, and out of no way, a way will be made. I used to think quotes like this were crap. I also didn’t understand what the hell they were even talking about.” This is pretty much the only self-help book I have ever read that was so feisty, while still getting across her points. Jen Sincero, you nailed it. And thank you, I am a badass.
You Can Find Inner Peace
Ok, so honestly, I kind of felt weird/insecure carrying a book around named “you can find inner peace” because I thought everyone around me would think that I was someone who really needed help. That there were demons in my head or that I was fighting an addiction or struggling through a family drama. I wasn’t, but I guess that’s the point. The book is about changing your thinking, and not giving one sh*t about what anyone thinks.
But really, like why couldn’t Mike George have just named it Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life?
Normal Gets You Nowhere
If you really want a badass to model your life after, Kelly Cutrone is your woman. She appeared on MTV’s shows The Hills and The City and was pretty-much framed as the cold-hearted b*tch who didn’t care about you. She was there to do her job, and that’s pretty much all she did. After reading her book, you realize that it’s not so much that she’s a cold robot, but rather that she’s so far past all the bullsh*t that so many people clog their lives with daily. Her book is inspiring and a real push if you need someone to tell you to shut up and do whatever it is that you want to do in life.
A New Earth
This one is pretty advanced. There were times I had to full-out skip paragraphs because it was too dense and bit too far out there. Not to say there’s anything wrong with that, but more so that I wanted to actually finish the book before feeling like it was too far over my head. That being said, I managed to finish it with a more academic outlook on the entire genre of Self-Help, Personal Development, New Age – whatever you want to call it. He mainly addresses the idea that we are more than just a brain that works and a body that functions, and finding the person who lives inside of us, “our true self,” is the real key to living a happy, fulfilling life. There was one part I specifically remember that I found pretty intriguing. He discusses the idea of “I”, yes, as in the first-person pronoun to refer to yourself, and how we throw around the word “I” daily but we don’t even realize that “I” doesn’t exist. It is just a reference used to refer to the person inside of you. Something we all use to facilitate daily conversations. You are not “I.” You are yourself, the person before the “I.”
See, I told you it’s some next level stuff.
Honestly if there’s one thing you need to know, it’s that Eckhart Tolle is kind of the King in the Self-Help world. Firstly for his best-seller, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment, and also for his other works like this one.