Not Better or Worse, Just Different


Why do we constantly feel the need to compare one thing to the next? That’s as dumb as trying to fit a triangle in a square hole, it doesn’t make sense.

My friends and family came to visit from the East Coast, and as they went back home it left me thinking; will we ever stop comparing locations and people to one another?

“When it rains in New York the city doesn’t shut down” or “Wow, I could never stand the huge rats of NYC, we don’t have that here” and even “The tap water tastes so crappy here, that’s why we’re lucky in New York.” Things are different, and there’s something to love about that.

On a more shallow note and for the sake of visual stimulation: you can sip an iced coffee to cool off during an LA winter, or drink a hot coffee to warm up during a NYC winter. There are various reasons to love both; #1 reason, coffee is amazing in all temperatures.


And have we ever questioned the fact that we were raised to pick favorites? “What’s your favorite color?” “What’s your favorite number?” “What’s your favorite sports team?” Because people were so uncreative with asking meaningful questions when trying to get to know us that they forced us to pick favorites.

But hold up: what if there were no favorites, and things simply just were? Maybe we could actually start appreciating things for their authentic selves; people, locations, and beyond. What a #Mindbanger.

On the subject of people, it also dawned on me that there needs to be an attitude change in how we look at those around us. Human beings are complex creatures, we have good qualities, bad qualities, and weird qualities like consecutive sneezes late at night, (as I sneeze for the 8th time in a row). A girl who never missed a day of class in her life is no better than the guy who’s blatantly not helping a granny carrying groceries while crossing the street, they’re just two different people. Someone who speaks five languages is no better than someone who speaks one. Or let’s keep it real simple: the square is no better than the triangle, they’re just different.


When it comes to traveling, having an “I like this more than…” or “this sucks compared to…” attitude will undoubtedly put a damper on your experience. Instead of appreciating what is, you’ll be bringing negative energy to things that aren’t, how backwards is that? You will literally be spending hours of your precious trip analyzing something that will never be, because newsflash: you’re in a different place, so things are different.

Deal with the differences and start thinking about it from a fresh perspective, not from a gloomy, almost baggage-filled opinion of places, or people. Leaving your comfort zone shouldn’t just mean getting on a plane and going somewhere new, it’s going somewhere new with a conscious effort of adopting a new perspective on things. Like, baby, goo-goo-ga-ga fresh; learn to walk and talk in the undiscovered city as if it were your first time.
When it’s all said and done, you’ll have a much more positive outlook with an endless amount of differences, (instead of negative comparisons) to talk about.

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  • The way you two see the world inspires me so much! Thank you for continuing to open my eyes & look at things a different way.

    PS – totally pictured Jo hitting her head as she typed #headbanger & could see Damon rolling his eyes 🙂

    • Aahahhaah love that you got that visualllll! 🙂 Thanks for reading!

  • Carolina Vargas Romero

    It’s very interestig to read this as I usually catch myself comparing me with others, others with others…
    As you said, “just different”.
    Greetings from the Netherlands and Argentina!

    • Yes!! Appreciate the honesty, usually I write things that are therapeutic to me.. a reminder to myself you know? Good to hear you feel the same!

  • Mariana Camillo

    That is something I often do. And you’re right, it takes off the sparkle that new experiences have. I will try that now. Even though I’m not travelling all the time, I can still try it in my city, with people I know and places I go here. Seeing everything as if it was the first time, like a baby.

    I love reading what you write, it’s very inspiring!! It shows people that things can be different, and they can be more open-minded about things. Because, if you think about it is just a way of thinking, but It can change the hole world for one person.

    I really loved it!!

    • Great comment to read! We’re about to get really real with future blog posts!! 🙂 Thanks for your support!

  • Nina

    Absolutely love this. Not only do we compare cities, but we compare ourselves to people too. Why can’t we just live lives for ourselves without constantly looking at others?

  • Julianny Thamara

    in love ♥

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